Keeping it real

It is amazing how sticking with something that is difficult can change you for the better.  I have absolutely learned this through 24 years of marriage, parenting two boys, trying to create a career, and building friendships!  Life just kicks us around sometimes and suddenly we find ourselves in circumstances that we never imagined we would be in!   The challenges we face may be relational, physical, mental, financial…any area of life can collapse and present you hardships.  In that time it is easy to look at other people and think that no one else has experienced the pain or trauma that we are currently enduring, but everybody has their battles to face.   As long as we are on the Earth, there will be trials.  (John 16:33, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”)

So, how do we come through a crisis stronger in the end instead of losing ourselves in self-pity and living as a victim?  I believe that it is by staying real.  So often when the big trials come, we start reacting from a place of fear.  When we do that, we can get overwhelmed with worst-case scenarios and emotions and lose our grip on what the truth is and what is real.  Even when “real” is devastating…trying to walk through it with your eyes focused on the facts instead of purely emotions enables you to grow and learn as you take one day at a time and travel through to better days.

As I’ve walked through the trials I have faced I have changed so much, I’ve matured and developed coping skills!  I am reaping the benefits of not be ruled by emotions.  I am so much more stable emotionally then I used to be and it helps me in every area of my life!  Walking through daily life things can come up that start to throw me for a loop and I can so much more readily discipline my thinking to look at the facts of the situation and not ramp myself up into panic and make it all worse!  This growth has happened over a lot of time and a lot of challenges, it is process, not a switch, and I finally accept that.  While our circumstances are sometimes (a lot of times) out of our control, our reactions are always in our control.  Mental discipline is a huge part of a healthy lifestyle.

Mental discipline enables us to hang in there and learn from life’s curve balls.  Stick in there my friends, you will grow and learn and you will prevail if you just keep it real!  This is not to say that emotions are bad or should not be experienced!  Stuffing or ignoring emotions causes so many problems!  I just want to encourage you to not get lost in them.  Sometimes you need help navigating a crisis.  I spent some time in one on one counseling and it helped me walk through that current crisis as well as gave me many tools for facing new ones.  Just don’t give up, my friends, determine that you will not be beat down but strengthened!  Create the life you want.


Calling all Mercy Girls!

AuntJodiFor my fellow Mercy Girls…

I just posted fliers around the department, I am starting a u.b.healthy group at work!  There is no cost to you except an hour of your time.  We’ll talk about a healthy lifestyle topic each month and share, laugh, relate, and grow together, it will be fun!  The first meeting in November 18th and we will meet in conference room 2 at the hospital.  Check out the flier for all the details…can’t wait to get started!

As October begins and the rush towards the holidays starts, just enjoy a moment here and be still.  As your morning starts today, notice how blue the sky is and how nice the sun feels on your face.  Notice how melodic the bird’s song is as they flit from tree to tree.  Take a deep breath in and fill your lungs all the way up, then slowly let it all out, relaxing your shoulders.  You can notice these things as you are moving through you day, it doesn’t take any extra time, but it may help you remember that this day is to be enjoyed, not just survived.

A healthy lifestyle has many components.  Take steps towards a healthier you today!  Maybe you can just be sure to eat 5 servings of vegetables today.  Maybe you can be sure to smile and be friendly, it will reduce your own stress level and those around you!  Maybe you can plan an evening without TV and talk a walk after dinner.  Maybe you can set a date to have your family over for dinner.  Don’t just get swept through your life, you get to make choices and make it what you want it to be!

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Surviving life with grace and hope


Create the life you want